Dear Laura,
Fata draga,
am not sure what is the purpose of your email... to stirr me?*:"> blushing*:x lovestruck
When talking about male needs in a couple relationship, I think that absolute claims are as dangerous as easy to build or to contradict. Before any principles could be laid i think there are few factors to be taken into account.
1. the emotional maturity of the man; the type of love/admiration he has for his mother; the amount of love he received as a child teenager from maternal figures around him. In this respect Mature Love assert I LOVE YOU, THUS I NEED YOU while Immature Love claims I LOVE YOU BECAUSE I NEED YOU. And 5 minutes later the imature man will turn his so called love into hate.
2. the age of the man- a biological young man is willing to know more and do more; he has a Ferrari without knowing how to drive it. A young and healthy man can have up to 3 serious relationship in the same time. It is not the case of a mature man or of a father concerned with the wellbeing and the education of his child/kids.
Once we asses the level of biological and emotional maturity, we can discuss about the intelectual and more importantly the spiritual level of one particular man. Obviouly we could discuss about similarities man-woman ( to his mother and educational values or to cultural background) and differences ( as an enriching and attracting diversity). Intellectually the man can be well rounded but spiritually he might think that he is superior or allowed to compare himself with his woman. With the spiritual man I think there is a different path- He is concerned with WHAT IS RIGHT and how can help his women to bloom. By contrast, imature men care about WHO is right and usually need to lower others so that they feel superior and being right. They might even use violent means to make their point.
After such a long preamble let s get more specific- I have a perfect scenario of the imperfect Mr. Hero and Mr. Right; both tend to overcome any other patterns. I would die for the person I love&respect. Understandably, I love the way I am: emotional, total, logical/pragmatical at outside and vulnerable inside. My main need -as many other men might have- is to be first and foremost respected and then loved. Also to be first understood and after that to understand.
With so many Achilean heels, no wonder I have reached 48 years old *:)) laughing and still dreaming of the absolute love.
Acum sa redevin mai prozaic- nu astept in sensul ca nu sper la o analiza a ta de sine*;) winking.
cand asteptam asa ceva, am primit remarci si intrebari retorice...asa ca acum suflu si in iaurt *:-* kiss
te puup,
H